How to Develop Self-Confidence And
Influence people with public speaking
Dale Carnegie
“this book contains brilliant depth.”
“This book pulled my experiences together, and showed me how to make better use of preparation and presentation techniques. Carnegie addresses the whole person, and radiates an interest in people and their goals.”
“I am sure the book can be of help to the novice as for the expert speaker alike.”
Would you like to feel safe and centered, no matter what is about to happen, no matter what the audience throws at yourself, no matter what you do? Give yourself the advantage of preparation.
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Is fear of public speaking holding you back? Are you paralysed by fear when you have to speak in public?
Do you need to make presentations at work but avoid them because of nerves?
This is not the way to success. Speeches and presentations need to be confidently presented.
These are the typical symptoms that nerves can produce …
Jelly legs
Dry mouth
Sweaty palms
Fear of forgetting or losing your place
Fear of not impressing the audience, or losing them altogether
Shakes
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This is one of the most powerful sources of confidence – knowing that you are prepared. During the nervous stages, you can continually reassure yourself that you are prepared and can visualise all the aspects of the successful presentation that you have prepared. As far as I am concerned, this will provide the major part of your confidence.
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Guest post by Janet Hilts
Is your fear of speaking really a fear of rejection? That’s at the bottom of public speaking anxiety for a lot of people. The way to deal with this fear is to first take a closer look. What are you afraid might be rejected? Your words?
Rejection Of Your Words
Here are a few facts to consider:
Fact A: Your words only count for 7% of the actual message that you deliver. 7%! Can you believe it? The biggest part of your message is conveyed through your body language, facial expression and tone of voice. So that seriously takes the pressure off your words, doesn’t it? When you’re speaking – whether that’s to a client or a big audience – your intention is to connect with them, isn’t it? That’s what communication is all about. And people connect at the heart. That’s where those nonverbal elements come into play. They’re watching your eyes. They’re looking to see if you’re paying attention to them. They want the feeling that you care about them and their problem.
Fact B: They want to feel positive emotions from hearing you – relief, hope, peace of mind. That experience does not come from your words. We’ve all heard words that sound empty, where the emotion doesn’t match the actual words. Picture an eye-rolling teenager saying “I’m sorry” to a scolding teacher. The words aren’t conveying their real meaning, are they? See how this reduces the pressure for you to get your words perfect? If your fear of rejection is about words, I hope your fear is shrinking.
On the positive side of things, think of the people you enjoy doing business with. They’re just regular people, right? Just like you.
Now think of their speaking styles. Do they all have perfect grammar? Are they all fabulous speech writers and award-winning orators? Is their language completely clear of “uh” and “y’know”? Of course not!
And yours doesn’t have to be either. For now, stop worrying about your words and focus on relaxing so your voice, face and body can react naturally. That’s what helps you connect to people so you can really get your message across.
Bonus:
Once you get some practice speaking naturally, you’ll find it much easier to work with improving your actual words if you want to. It’s ironic that once you let go of the fear about the words, your options for words open up. Your creative ability and willingness to experiment with new phrases totally expands once your speaking anxiety is gone.
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From Janet Hilts at Speak Up & Shine | Clearing Pathways
Lisa Braithwaite has shared her experiences with panic attacks and anxiety on her blog. I admire her candour, and am thankful she shared her experiences, because this sort of story encourages those who feel trapped by the condition. I went through a similar time – panic attcks and anxiety, and certainly would not recommend it.
But in this particular article Lisa has given us all a new way of looking at the situation, especially as it applies to public speaking, with some incredibly powerful tools to use.
If our mind is powerful enough to create fear from “nothing,” it’s also powerful enough to reframe our thoughts to propel us forward in a positive way. There have been many books written about the power of positive thinking – the most well-known of these is Norman Vincent Peale’s, first published over 50 years ago. Recent medical research shows, for example, that a positive expectation of a medication has real measurable physical effects (not just the psychological “placebo effect”) on our health.
How does this apply to you as a public speaker? You can control the amount of fear and anxiety you experience around public speaking. You have the power to turn negative and fearful thoughts into positive ones. How do you do it?
PREPARATION and practice – that’s the 2Ps approach advocated by trainer Faridah Khalid for overcoming stage fright in a public-speaking competition.
“There are no shortcuts to overcoming stage fright. You need to prepare and practise,” she told participants of the English-Speaking Union Malaysia (Esum)-The Star-HSBC Public Speaking Competition 2006 workshop at St Joseph’s Secondary School in Kuching last Saturday. Article continues
You’ve heard it said many times before – the fear of speaking is considered by many as their number one fear, outdistancing death and divorce. There are legendary stories of entertainment superstars who undergo extraordinary episodes of stage fright immediately before they perform…
They’ve experienced blurred vision, nausea, and headaches – even after performing hundreds of times. So, if these entertainers face anxiety on stage, is it any wonder that the rest of us may be fearful of appearing before groups? That anxiety may even prevent us from reaching our fullest potential since we may tend to avoid speaking opportunities altogether that could advance our career.
So how do you overcome that – reach your fullest potential? Find out in Pivotal Magazine. http://www.pivotalmagazine.com/lose_fear.htm